Facebook Parenting and Corpral Punishment for the Troubled Teen 101

Facebook Parenting and Corpral Punishment for the Troubled Teen 101




The only words that come to mind right now are “Good job.” I know I know there are some people out there who are just absolutely appalled at his horrendously poor parenting skills. And I’m sure that 50% of people who feel this way either do not have children, or teenage children for that matter, 25% grew up in homes where the only punishment they ever received was having to stand in a corner for 10 minutes to mull over whatever bad decision culminated with them having to go to timeout, and the other 25% remain convinced that their particular brand of parenting is so spectacular that their children would never dream of disobeying them.

When it comes to giving advice on how to punish your unruly children, no matter how gently you try to approach the topic, it’s like skipping through a minefield. I’ve seen some of the sturdiest friendships crumble at the mere mention of corporal punishment. And heaven forbid you have the audacity to mention that you were spanked as a child and you turned out fine.

Now that I’m older and wiser (for the most part) I’ve had time to reflect upon my youthful indiscretions. By no means was I a bad child. To this day I’ve never even attempted to smoke a cigarette. I’ve never participated in any illicit drug use (yes even marijuana). I didn’t go to wild parties and drink until I passed out (although I will admit I went to quite a few clubs when I was in high school, but I was living in Germany at the time so that was pretty normal). I didn’t and still don’t cuss. I never yelled, “I hate you” at my parents (probably more so in fear of what would happen to me if I even dreamed of doing something so foolish). Mostly I just read my books, played in trees until I was about 15 and fought like the devil was after me whenever my mom tried to get me to wear a dress. I have no illusions that my daughter will be like me. Don’t get me wrong, I pray that she’s a good kid and will do everything in my power to try to mold her young impressionable mind so that she behaves like a sweet young lady, but realistically I know that there’s a 99.9% chance that she’ll do the complete opposite of what I tell her to do. Which means I have to prepare myself for the fact that I may have to “whup some behind.”

It sucks, but that’s life. Sometimes you have to do things that you don’t necessarily want to. In fact, it was not until recently that what my father used to say while I was getting a spanking made sense to me. He used to tell me, “This hurts me more than it hurts you.” Of course at that time I was thinking, “Yeah right, you’re the one with the belt buddy. How ‘bout you hand that over so I can hit YOU with it a few times so we can compare notes.” Flash forward 15 years and it makes total sense. I really don’t want to have to spank Jasmine, but I know it’s a possibility. I will, however, look at other options first. One of the things that I respected my parents the most about was how they chose to punish me and my sister. When we messed up, they didn’t automatically pull out the belt and start swingin’. In fact, most of the time the belt was a last resort. The most common form of punishment that we were subjected to was having to copy the out of the dictionary or write an essay about what we did, why it was wrong and why we would never do it again. Let me stress that when it came to spankings, my parents NEVER hit me in the face, punched me, or shoved me. They were pretty standard when it came to spankings. Turn around, hands out in front, and if you were smart, you wouldn’t even think about running.

Watching this video, I felt that this father was well within his rights to do what he did. Ultimately it was his money that purchased and paid for the repairs on her computer. The complaints that she had were ridiculous. There are starving children living in third-world countries that would do anything for a meal. There are children living in poverty here in the US that would do anything for a roof over their head. She appears to have a stable home and a loving family, but instead of being grateful (I didn’t even have a laptop until I was in college), she blames them for having to do chores. You should have to do chores, and if you parents choose not to pay you for them, then it is their God given right. They brought you into this world. Changed your poopy smelly diapers. Took care of you when you were sick. Put food on your plate. Purchased expensive toys to make you happy. Celebrated Christmas, Birthday, and every other gift-giving holiday with you. And yet you mock them and cuss at them behind their backs. Sheesh. I’d make her spoiled, indulgent, self-entitled, disrespectful little behind volunteer at a soup kitchen and orphanage every weekend until she graduated from high school. *Sigh* but what do I know???

I cannot stress enough that I am not trying to tell parents how to discipline their children. How you do so is entirely up to you. Your child, your choice. Until I became a mother I didn’t understand how annoying it is to have people try to tell you that they know how to take care of YOUR child. What some people have to understand is that even though something worked on your child(ren) it does not guarantee that it will work on another. Unless someone is beating their children, then you need to step back and realize that they are doing what they feel is necessary. I just hope that the people can understand it the way I do.


-Reese

13 comments :

  1. Hi Reese, I love that blog post, boy these days everyone has to be so careful with discipline, I got a swat on the butt from time to time growing up and so did my kids.

    I am now following you and thanks for stopping by Oh! My Heartsie. I love meeting new friends hope we cross paths again. Happy Valentines!
    Karren

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  2. I agree with you...Good Job! I used to get a good swat on the butt if I misbehaved when I was younger, but you can't do that anymore and have to be very careful what you do. I thought it was an ingenious way of discipline.

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  3. Hi,
    I am a new follower from the Mom Bloggers Club. I would like for you to stop by my site and follow me back please.
    Thanks
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  4. Hi Karen, thanks for finding me. I'm looking forward to becoming friends as well. Susan, I found your blogs. Super cute by the way ;) And Monica, I've actually been following you for a while, but thanks for finding me :)
    - Reese

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  5. This is blowing up all over facebook! It'll be viral by morning. Love it!

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  6. Love this!!! I wholeheartedly agree! So glad I found your blog through the Linky Blog Hop. Feel free to stop by Divas With A Purpose whenever you get a chance. Have a fantastic weekend!!!
    http://www.divaswithapurpose.com

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  7. I'm so glad that my girls are grown. :-)

    I stopped by to follow you on the Linky Party Hop. I hope that you get a chance to do the same! :-)

    http://robinsnestquilting.blogspot.com/

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    1. Hello Michelle and Robin, first thanks for following me. I'm a bit of a newbie when it comes to the blog verse, but I've always had a passion for writing. I'm looking forward to posting on interesting topics that keep our minds thinking, and our bellies full (I'm a foodie). I've found your blogs, and love them by the way. I'm looking forward to swinging in and seeing the latest from you guys as well. Have a fantastic day :)
      -Reese

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  8. Thanks for stopping by to hop! Come back next week! Have a wonderful day!
    Loressa

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    1. Thanks for hosting Loressa :) I will most definitely be back next weekend. Have a great day :)

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  9. While I haven't yet had children of my own, I do agree with many of the points you raised here. My husband and I watched that video and laughed at how unappreciative his daughter is. She actually thought she should get paid for sweeping the floor, unloading the dishwasher and making her bed?! Seriously?!? I did all of those things as a child, as did my sister, and it's called contributing to the household work-load, learning responsibility and picking up after yourself! I hope someday she realizes how lucky she is to have all that she does and how petty her complaints were.

    While I do think it was unnecessary for the Dad to actually shoot the laptop (bit over the top in my opinion) I do agree with everything he said and hope she thinks twice before she complains about her parents and comfortable life. I also don't think she'll write a massive rant about them on her FB again, do you? haha

    Just wanted to say a big thank you for stopping by my blog and becoming a follower :) I really appreciate it, and I've now started following you also! :)

    Amanda

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  10. You've said it all.. Thanks for making out this great points. Hope others get to see and read this post. Wishing you a great week..

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  11. I absolutely love that video, seems like something that my parents would have done to me!

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