Mom Leaves 10-week Old Baby Home To Go On Vacation

Mom Leaves 10-week Old Baby Home To Go On Vacation

As mothers, we are all aware of how demanding motherhood is. It's intense. It's nonstop. It's unpaid. But it's also one of the best feelings in the world. Which is why when another mom does something that's so obviously detrimental to her child's well-being, angry mobs of mothers everywhere are quick to light the torches and grab the pitchforks.

Now typically I try to be the mediator. I try to recognize that all mothers make mistakes. As much as we hate to admit it, we're not superwomen. And that's okay. But most of the time we don't brazenly inform the entire blogging community when were getting ready to do something that makes us mothers cringe. At least most of us don't...



In case you missed it, a few days ago, this mother (who is now the target of a lot of pissed off mommies toting pitchforks and suffering from severe sleep deprivation), decided to up and ditch her 10-week old baby and take a much needed vacation with her fiance. To Mexico. Thousands of miles away from her brand spankin' new, tiny little infant. No bueno. Which in case you don't speak Spanish, means "huh?"
 
Ironically enough I had just finished posting about the Skooki diaper changing incident. However, unlike Snooki, this mother was telling the truth (which is a comparison I never thought I ever make). She saw absolutely nothing wrong with leaving her 10-week old newborn behind while she hung out by the poolside sipping a Mojito. I think the funniest thing out of the whole situation, is that she is a fellow mommy blogger. Check out what she had to say:

"My fiancĂ© runs a charity golf tournament every summer in Mexico. I will be tagging along, not to golf, but to lie around, read, visit the spa, and eat a lot of guacamole. I’m super excited for this trip. To be blunt, it is a vacation for me. And to be blunt, I will be leaving my 10-week old baby behind."

"Yes, I’m ditching my baby, which makes me a little anxious. But, mostly, I don’t have a problem leaving my baby behind since I have wonderful backup. My fiancĂ©’s mother is moving into my house for the week and I have a wonderful nanny as well. It’s not that I’m not going to miss him, because I am dearly. But since I can’t read the mind of a two-month-old baby, I’m not sure he’s really going to miss me. All I know is when he wants to eat, needs to burp, needs a diaper change, or a cuddle and that’s only because he cries."

Read more: http://mommyish.com/stuff/vacation-without-baby/#ixzz24PqqSjc0

I'm almost 99.9% positive that posting that on your blog in a community composed entirely of other mommy bloggers is not such a hot idea. In fact, it's pretty much guaranteed to backfire. Hard. More to the point, I'm not sure I know too many mothers that are willing to just up and ditch their newborn babies to fly thousands of miles away to soak up some sun. But then again, I'm relatively new to this whole "mommy thing." Maybe I missed something?

Anyhow, I'm going to let you all tell me what you think about this. Do you think 10 weeks is too soon to leave your babies to go on vacay? Sound off in the comment section below.

Photo creds: lionsdenu.com

XOXO Reese

24 comments :

  1. I'm not a parent and that sounds messed up to me. Even the fact that she actually used the statement "ditch my baby" is wack!

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    1. It's good to know I'm not the only one who see's something wrong with this...

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  2. I don't understand all this hype! The woman left her child in the loving hands of his grandmother! I read, see and hear HORRIBLE stories everyday about the horrifying things parents do to their children. I'm sorry, but although it might not be a choice everyone would make I don't see it as the terrible act it's being made out to be. When I heard the story on THE NEWS I thought they were going to say she left the baby unattended, or with her 3 year old or with the town bum!
    The woman left her child with it's grandmother!!!
    This whole thing is RIDICULOUS!
    Think of the time you've missed out with your own children posting about something so un-newsworthy!

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    1. Anonymous (1) While I was posting this, my daughter (singular, as in one child, not children) was peacefully sleeping in her crib, probably dreaming about fluffy bunnies and teddy bears. (2) This is my personal blog. I'm not affiliated with CNN, FOX, or any other news organization, so I can write about whatever I deem important, no matter how "un-newsworthy" it may be to you. (3) In reading your comment it is quite clear that you are not a mother. Because if you were, you would understand the "hype." New mother's don't typically leave their kids behind to go on vacation shortly after they're born because of this little thing called bonding. The first few months of a babies life are arguably the most important. They need that time to bond with their parents and feel secure. Handing your child off to ANYONE, whether it be your husbands mother, or the nanny, 10 weeks after your baby is born, is probably not the best way to establish that bond.

      Now, I could give you a (5) and a (6), but honestly, I've got better things to do. Have fun visiting other peoples pages anonymously. And while you're at it, think of all the time you've missed out on your day seeking out my blog and leaving this comment.

      -Reese

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    2. Seriously? I'm with Anonymous. Who gives a rats patootie? No I wouldn't have left my ten month old, but that is what this woman chose to do. If you disagree with her fine, but all you've done is drive more traffic to her blog. I came over to read this post because I thought you were saying someone left their child alone to go on vacation. Mothers (as a whole, not you specifically) need to stop judging each other. Life is hard enough without having to worry about offending the next person down the street. Why don't you write a blog post about the women who abandon their babies in bathrooms or other public places? That is news. This is just your opinion. I've been a fan of your blog, but I am honestly extremely surprised by your judgmental tone here.

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  3. Well, you've got me all wrong. Not only am I a mom, I'm a mom to 4 wonderful children. I wasn't referencing your own personal blog, as much as I was talking about seeing something like this making NATIONAL headlines! You asked on your blog to hear what other people thought about it.
    I went to a baseball game, leaving my DD with her grandparents, when my 1st born was about 6 weeks old and I cried the whole way there! So I am not saying this is something I would do, I just don't think it's the horrible act that many (not talking about you) are making it out to be.
    There was just a story on our local news about a mom who decapitated her two year old, right before taking her own life.
    I'd much rather see a mom leave her child in loving hands to "get a break" than feel so overwhelmed and pressured that she might snap and do something truly horrifying.
    I'm sure you are a great mother to your children! I didn't mean to offend you personally, I was talking in general about the story and just giving my own perspective, which is what you asked for.

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    1. Anonymous, thank you for coming back to clarify your previous statement, because it did appear that you were attacking me. I agree that leaving your infant in the hands of someone you trust for a few hours is a better alternative than snapping and harming your baby because you were overwhelmed. However, leaving your child behind to go on vacation to Mexico, is a bit of a stretch.

      Now I can't speak on behalf of these other people that you were directing those comments to. I can only be held accountable for what I post. I never called this woman a bad mother, or horrible, or insinuated that I was amongst the hoards of women with pitchforks out to burn her at the stake. I just thought it would make for an interesting conversation.

      For the record, I have no problem with people having a conversation/debate about this topic. And while I did ask for people's thoughts on the situation, I did not ask for people to come to my blog and make comments about how I could have been spending more time with my daughter instead.

      -Reese

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  4. I don't think this is a big deal at all. These days many women go back to work mere weeks after a delivery. She left the baby with family AND a trusted nanny. She may be planning to be a full time stay at home mom after her much needed and deserved 6 day break. I see absolutely nothing wrong with this. Lay off. Mind your own business.

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    1. Ummm hi there new anonymous person, I'm not sure if you're aware of this, but this story was in the news. I didn't go poking around someone's personal page with the intent of ousting them. This is something I heard on the news and took a few minutes out of my day to post about.

      However, you are right about one thing. These days many women do go back to work mere weeks after having a baby... to PROVIDE for said baby, not to go on vacation. Most mothers I know couldn't be pried off their infants with a crow bar.

      Last time I checked, I wasn't laying on anyone. Just providing an interesting discussion. If you can't participate without resorting to acting like a jerk, please by all means, do us all a favor and utilize that little "x" button in the top right-hand corner of your computer screen.

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  5. My children are now 20.18.16 and 11 and Ive never left them for a week to vacation. My husband and I have gone on a few weekend trips but only once they were much older. I just never want to leave my children. I know someone who left their 16 year old at home for two months to vacation in another country....... what do you think of that? Its just not something Id ever consider. The longerst Ive ever left is for 7 days and that was for a mission trip and my husband was home with them!

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  6. Wow, I've let James take Jasmine out of town once without me, just last month in fact, and it was terrible. I never thought I would be one of those mothers who are basically glued at the hip with their children, but it happened. I guess I'm still searching for a balance. I understand that children need time away from their parents, but it's hard.

    I think it's pretty amazing that you've never gone on vacay without your children. I'm not sure I'll last quite that long. And wow to the parents who left the 16 year old at home for two months. I can hardly imagine what I would have done at 16 if my parents would have left me home alone.

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  7. I could never leave them that soon but then again my daughter is two and we just spent two days apart for the first time last week, lol! I may not be the best measuring stick for this. To each her own I guess...

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  8. I think my son was almost 1 when I first left him with my parents for a weekend trip. But I called every morning, every afternoon and at night to talk to him lol. My hubby and I usually go on one weekend trip a year and let the kids have that bonding time with their grandparents. They are not almost 6 and just turned 7 and I call frequently. We are talking about maybe doing a cruise for our 10 year wedding anniversary next fall which will mean my kids will be with their grandma for a week. I hope that doesn't make me a bad mommy :( But I do agree, 10 weeks is a little young for such a thing but at the same time if it made national news that is just to much hype.

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  9. Anonymous I may be as well, but Appalled? Absolutely, and for the baby's sake and the mother's, I hope she changes her mind and stays home. However, that may not be enough. Here's a little perspective on my qualifications to comment here: I was raised in my grandparents house. I am quite certain that my biological mother, who lived with us, never took a vacation when I was small, but she was hospitalized for an undisclosed amount of time after my birth. Couldn't be helped, I assume, at least by 1969 standards of medical/psychological care. (I do know that the drugs she was given would not have been given to someone in a similar situation today.) My point is that: My mother and I NEVER bonded. In my opinion, if a mother can stand to even contemplate being away from her 10 week old for 6 DAYS there is a problem. Yes, I am a mother, and the fact that this mother blogger thinks her baby will not miss her because the child seems to want only FOOD from her mother -- well, this evidences a fundamental misunderstanding of what a mother is to a 10 week old baby or any child no matter its age. Simple understanding of the baby/mother relationship aside, I must say that I fear that there are more serious problems afoot with this mother, and my heart breaks for the baby -- absolutely breaks! I hope that if the mother does get on that plane, she is going to be on the next flight back home when she realizes that there is no such thing as a "vacation" WITHOUT her 10 week old baby. Otherwise, I'm afraid that this child will grow up the way I did, and will be "motherless" despite the physical presence of her biological mother here on Earth while grandma, nanny, or the person with whom the baby DID bond, is long gone. It's a very, very difficult life, indeed. My "true mother" was taken from me when I was 8 because my mother moved me only 1/2 an hour away from where my grandparents lived, and I only visited on weekends and holidays. That would seem to be enough, but it wasn't. I developed depression at the age of 10, and it has been chronic thoughout my life. By the time I was 16, my grandmother began to develop Alzheimer's, and I lost my mother/daughter relationship with her within a few years. (I am 43 now.) I know now that my biological mother "couldn't" bond with me, and I suspect that this mother blogger has not bonded and will not bond with her child -- I hope I'm wrong! I really hope I'm wrong.

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  14. It is probably less detrimental to leave a baby at 2 months (not that I would EVER consider doing thst myself.) But is other mother's who leave their children that leave their babies after they really have a bond with you (probably after about 8 or 9 months.) At that point the baby really starts to develope an attachment to their parent and will most likley notice you disappearing for a week. I personally would never leave my new born but if you are okay with it and you're not breast feeding than it would probably better to it then rather then wait until the baby will be more aware of your absence. Personally I have a 4 1/2 year old and a 21 month old and still have a hard time thinking about leaving them so I can have a vacation. I'd rather take them with me or wait until the youngest is about 4 or so, so she can really understand that I will be back in a few days.

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  15. My mother left to go on holiday for 6 WEEKS not days when I was only 7 and a half months old. She took my brother and left me. I was cared for by my father and random other people. 3Fifty one years later I can report the following
    1. She has narcissistic spectrum disorder.
    2. We never bonded.
    3. She has never once thought or said this was a bad idea.
    Personally I think people who do such things are totally selfish. I am now 51 years old and have a good life.

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  16. No one seems to think it bad that the FATHER left the baby?!! Why is all the judgement on the mother when we live in a society of equal rights and parental responsibility? I have a young child but have to travel for a couple of weeks at a time with work. Her father shares the care and I have to work

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    1. Truthfully, I wrote this post about four years ago, and I was both new to blogging and parenting. The great thing about being a mom is there's always a chance for it to come back and bite you in the butt. Though today I still wouldn't leave my baby alone so early on, I also wouldn't be so quick to judge another. Time has an incredible impact on who we choose to be as people. I hope you'll stick around and read some of my newer posts. My thoughts on parenting, and judging parents in general has changed quite a bit since this unfortunate post.

      Thanks for stopping by and reading!

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  17. I don't think I would do it, but don't think there is anything wrong with it either...probably too young to notice. I do think going away for a weekend, without the baby can be a very good thing even at 10 weeks. I have 3 children and didn't feel comfortable leaving them for more than a couple days until they were 3, but now that the youngest is 4 I am looking forward to having a week long child free vacation in the next year :)

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  18. It sounds like everyone who has a problem with this is just jealous. Who cares what other people are doing? How does that affect you and your life? Get a grip, take a deep breath and focus on your immediate surroundings. Is there anyone here screaming "hey, come tell me what you think about what I am doing and whether you agree with it or not!" No? Nobody? Then why do you do it?

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