Blog Cliques: The Good, The Bad, The Elite

Blog Cliques: The Good, The Bad, The Elite

When I was in high school (an undisclosed amount of years ago) a guidance counselor once assured me that people matured as they got older. She told me that eventually the cliques would disappear and the "in-crowd" would peak and die out. Obviously this guidance counselor didn't spend much time in the blogging world.

I've spent the last few days pondering my experience so far in the blogging community, and it's like this. I've met some really great friends. You know, the true ones. Who stop by regularly and ask what sort of shenanigans my daughter has managed to get into this week. I've also met some pretty decent big time bloggers. The ones who have 2000+ followers, and yet still take the time to swing by every once and a while and give me some advice. They're been great to me. No question about it.

But then...there are the others. The ones that have a huge following and somehow think that amounts to celebrity status. The one's who blatenly ignore your attempts to communicate with them. They are the ones that belong to this ultra elitist blogging clique. The one that no matter how hard you try, you will never be welcomed in. Unless you have over 3,000 subscribers. It's a bit sad really.



So I've decided to do things differently. I've cleaned up my sponsor wall and stopped promoting those members of the aforementioned blogging cliques who haven't given me the time of day. No, I will no longer be participating in your giveaways. And no, I'm not going to retweet your messages. I know, I know, they won't miss me, but there is something to be said for people who don't chase after the members of these blogging cliques, in hopes that they will pay attention to them.

I've also started my own blog hop. Le Corner Café . So far I have about 5 people who are interested in co-hosting. If you think you might be another one of those people, shoot me an email and we'll talk. And please don't be shy. I don't care if you only have 5 followers. The more the merrier :)

Finally, this revelation has given me the opportunity to hang with people who have relatively low follower counts. That was me not too long ago. I still remember how excited I was logging in and seeing that I had 15 followers. I would like to help new bloggers feel that way. As for those larger blogs, the one's who don't communicate with your subscribers who have low follower counts. By all means, keep it in your circle. We don't want to be associated with that anyway.

I said all that to say this. I started blogging back in January, and somewhere along the way I almost got caught up silliness of it all. Apparently that desire to fit in tried to catch up with me 10 years too late. The simple truth is, as long as people are willing to take one glance at me and think they have me figured out, I'll never fit in. I'm about 5 shades too dark and speak my mind way too much. Their loss. For now, I'm going to continue to blog much like I do everything else in my life. Like. A. Boss.


Until next time...
 XOXO Reese


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  1. This was a refreshing read, Reese. I love how honest you were about the blog cliques and how catty some bloggers can be. I can say that I have met some pretty awesome bloggers along the way, but there have been some not-so nice ones as well. I say, as long as you stay true to yourself and what you blog about, don't even worry about those "elitist" bloggers who have somehow transcended to celebrity status and have no time for mere mortals lol. Keep up the good work on your blog, btw :-)

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    1. lol, Thanks Miss Dre :) I had actually written this a while back, but I figured it still applied and finally decided to post it. It took me a minute to figure things out, but I think I understand now. I'm just happy that I've met so many awesome people (yourself included) in the process :)

      -Reese

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  2. I've only been blogging for a few months but after the first month or so when I was stuck at 16 followers for weeks, I thought about stopping. My teenaged son, who is my biggest critic in general said to me "don't stop, Mom, do it for you". Coming from someone who wasn't just looking to say what I wanted to hear, he gave me true perspective. I know the type of bloggers you're talking about, but I don't care. I'm not doing this for anyone else's approval, I'm doing this for me. I hope you keep on blogging in your own way and I hope you do it for you.

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    1. Sounds like you've raised a very wise little guy there! I think all of us bloggers are ready to toss in that towel every once and a while, but like you said, you doing this for yourself.

      I really live such an unorthodox life. But I figure, so, I'm not perfect, I'm a young mom, I'm still in school, I've got struggles (with a capital S), maybe one day someone else in a similar situation will swing by my blog and feel encouraged? Here's to hoping!

      Thanks for the love :)

      -Reese

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  3. I was just thinking about blogging cliques a few days ago, but it was more from the perspective of types of blogs and their target audiences i.e mom blogs, fashion blogs, technology blogs, photo blogs. I suppose that blogging cliques come in all types and sizes.

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  4. I have recently started thinking about this myself. Why waste your time on people who don't really care about people but only their stat? I'm not going to.

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  5. Hey Reese, I have to say, I applaud your post so much. You made a point but still stayed positive. Well done! Thanks for this perspective. I get insecure sometimes about this whole blog thing, it's like making friends in middle school all over again when you first get started! We just have to keep our chins up and do it for ourselves! :)

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    1. Thank you so much! We all get a little insecure sometimes, but like you said, we have to keep our chins up and do it for ourselves :)

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  6. I really liked your post. We ALL started at one follower and no one is better than anyone else. I mean, I'm sure you know what I mean when I say there are certain blogs who have 5000+ followers and they can write an entire post about their cats kitty litter and get like 50 comments, um what? So I love where you are going with this and I can tell you are one of the authentic ones ;)

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    1. Thanks Raven! lol the Kitty litter part is hilarious, and yet so true.

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  7. Hi Reese! I just wanted to tell you thank you for writing this. Being a new blogger myself, it does help to keep me in check. Who cares how many followers that I have...The real question is..do you love what you do with your time? Then do it...cause our time is never promised. Thank you for being one of my first followers on facebook and I truly enjoy everything you do. Your baby is ADORABLE!

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    1. You're so welcome Keri :) Apparently A LOT of other people here feel the same. I guess it's good to have a reminder every once and a while that you're not. Keep on blogging. Don't give up because you never know when something you have to say will end up being something that someone truly needs to hear at that precise moment.

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  8. I love this post! I have been thinking about this a lot. I love my blog and I do it for myself. I would rather have followers who read my blog and are engaged than readers who are following just for a follow back.

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  9. Those blog cliques are something else for real. I'm proud to say that I'm not any clique. Sure I've bonded beyond the blog with a few bloggers but at the end of day my circle of blogging friends is very diverse.

    And I'm always appreciative of all my readers and supporters. I'm constantly trying to make sure that I respond to their comments on my blog even if it's just saying thanks for coming by. I never want to get so wrapped up in numbers and being part of an elite group that I forget those who helped me elevate my status.

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    1. Yes ma'am, those followers are the reason you got to where you are. I'm happy that you're one of the good ones and keeps that in mind when communicating with your followers :)

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  10. You said it! You know it's funny...we all start at one, and as some blog grow fast, some grow slow, but it doesn't matter, we blog to blog, to share, and if those "big" blogs don't give a hoot, oh well. I've had this happen to me recently, and I can assure you, I will not participate in something they are hosting, or like you retweet tweets or take part in their giveaways.

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    1. I'm so sorry that you had something like that happen to you. It's no fun at all. But I love that you're still being positive. It's very much like in high school. Bullies only bully people they think they can push around. I'm happy that you're standing your ground. Blog for you!!

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  11. This was great!!! Like a previous comment said we all started at one subscriber. I don't have time for the craziness either. I've become great blog buddies with some fantastic women and I'm happy about that. When I come across someone that's unfriendly I just dust that "dirt" right off my shoulder!!

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    1. lol, I remember the excitement of logging in and seeing that I had 2. whole. followers. I was so happy that day. Sometimes I think it's better to look at how far you've come rather than how far you'd like to go. I agree though, I've definitely met some amazing ladies. And it's YOU guys who keep me encouraged and moving forward. So thanks for that!!!

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  12. Great post! I actually think this is the first time I have been to your blog but it will definitely not be the last.

    I love how honest this post was. And I think it is definitely relate-able. I feel I don't care how old you get, there will always be cliques. It is so sad but I think it is the truth. I think it is a shame that there are bloggers like that in the blogging world because everyone starts off somewhere. And most people blog as a hobby and just for fun. And I am sure some of the major blogs started that way too. I think it is important to remember where you started and that blogging should be fun. And I think follower count is not important.

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  13. You go girl! Great post and so true! I think a ton of bloggers feel this way. Kuddos to you for speaking up! :-)

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  14. Great post Reese. Sadly, this is a reality. I started to feel the way you are feeling now and was so fortunate to find a group of bloggers, some "big" some "small" that are very helpful and supportive of each other. It really made a huge difference in my attitude towards blogging.

    I'm always up for a blog hop with you ;)

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  15. Cheers to your blog post! Couldn't agree with you more!

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  16. You know, I've totally been thinking about this lately too... There are some amazing bloggers out there with so many followers who take the time to stop by, or even reply to your comments...

    But then there are those that don't even care. It's sad. They seem like total bitches-even if they're not...

    It's hard to stop by everywhere, I get that-but I try to at least respond via email to comments left, and go visit when I can... But I still have a relatively smallish following I guess.

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  17. Hi Reese, just stopping by to say how delightful your blog is. Thanks so much for sharing. I have recently found your blog and am now following you, and will visit often. Please stop by my blog and perhaps you would like to follow me also. Have a wonderful day. Hugs, Chris
    http://chelencarter-retiredandlovingit.blogspot.ca/

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  18. thanks for sharing your views, i was starting up my followers and recently had to switch handles hoping to rebuild it up. im friendly to almost anyone but hate spammers and those that are only out for their business and not others. i like interactions and supporting others.

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  19. Ok, like seriously... I know I'm supa late but what have you been all my blogging LIFE!!!!! lol

    I'm TOTALLY glad you said it; I have meet a few bloggers and some I've really connected with then you have those ummm... well you know! At the end of the day, continue to do you but posts like this surely do motivate a lil blogger like me; but don't let the numbers fool ya the same way they made they can surely loose it all an BLINK of an eye. Folks, need to be very careful how they treat ppl in front of & behind the PC. Besides, KARMA is a B*TCH!!!!!

    Lastly, I am in a few blogging community where we get together and have several meet-ups but they are both open to anyone and everyone is welcome it not clique up it's about uniting and supporting one another. Also, sorry to ya but the cliques NEVER EVER really stops they have cliques in churches on the Usher & Motherboard even on JOBS... I think it's the world we live in. Sadly, that it's that way but it is what it is and we have to socialize accordingly.

    ~Sorry, for typing so much but I'm still at an awe that I haven't came across your blog until now. *SIGH* Thanks, for following me on twitter... I'm now following you back and I'm your newest follower via GFC. I'm now you newest follower and I look forward to your posts. Thanks for sharing... BTW, your daughter is such a cutie!!!!

    Xoxo
    Lynn

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    1. I totally identify with this post. Blog cliques - I thought we had left junior high?

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  20. I know this is an old post, but I just found your site doing a search for "blog cliques" as I guessed I wasn't the only one seeing this crazy stuff. I was just explaining to my husband pretty much exactly what you said in this post. I was so confused for a long time why the "bigger" blogs wouldn't respond to me but they'd respond to other ones of higher popularity. We're living through bloggy high school all over again - yikes! ;) Take care and keep doin' your thing!! :)

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  21. BRAVO!!! Someone gets it. I've been blogging over four years, impulsively deleting several of my previous blogs due to much of this same frustration. It was not until recently that I decided, enough is enough. No more blogging for my readers. I blog for me. I blog to use the gifts that I've been given, to create, to live my life, to encourage others. Somewhere along comparison road, I lost track of this, but I'm focused again, so focused that I got rid of my sidebar blogroll, and with the exception of a handful of blogging friends who have stuck it out with me through the years, I visit new blogs freely and spontaneously.
    Keep being you!

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