On those rare occasions that we were out and about and the munchkin got hungry, I would typically head back to my car and just sit in the backseat to feed her. Mostly because it was actually more comfy for both of us. But there were a few times that I did feed her in public. I always did it in a low traffic area, with a cover-up, because I'm still a bit on the modest side. But that's just me.
Having been a breastfeeding momma, I have nothing against mothers breastfeeding in public. If I have any input at all (which I really don't because it's a personal decision) I would just say, be a bit modest about it. Let's face it, as beautiful and wonderful of an experience as breastfeeding is, not everyone wants/needs to see "the girls". And let me clarify, by modest I don't mean that you always have to use a blanket, because in the summer months it can get to be a bit hot under there, besides some babies (mine included) are squirmers. What I mean by modest is not, overtly popping the girls out and leaving them hanging out for all to see while you burp, change, and play with your little one.
Every momma I have seen breastfeeding in public so far has been modest, and that's what makes it beautiful. When you're respectful to to other people, people tend to return that kindness and grant you respect as well. Well at least they should be. Unfortunately I found out that's not always the case...
Anyhow this weekend James, Jasmine and I had a family day at the mall. While I went off in search for the perfect hair accessories to go with my adorable new Liz Claiborne sweater, James decided to walk Jasmine around for a while to tire her out. After a pretty successful trip to Forever 21, I decided to sit down at the food court for a minute to give my tired legs a break while I was waiting for my hunnies to return.
That's when I noticed the woman off to the side, with a blanket thrown over her shoulder. I looked a bit closer and realized that there were a pair of adorable chubby little feet peaking out from beneath the blanket. When the momma looked my way, I gave her a smile and head nod, as if to say "you go girl." She gave me a quick smile back and continued on about her business.
Then I heard the conversation taking place next to me by two ladies in their mid-to-late 20's.
Ignorant lady number 1: "Ewww is that lady doing what I think she's doing?"
Ignorant lady number 2:"She is! That is so nasty! I'm trying to eat!"
Ignorant lady number 1: "Geeze there's a bathroom right there."
At this point, I glanced back at the momma to see if perhaps she had just taken off the blanket, whipped off her top and decided to pop out both of the girls to let the baby decide which one he wanted. Because obviously she had done something pretty horrific to offend these ladies.
Nope, she was still quietly feeding her child with her blanket still in place.
Apparently she had overheard that entire conversation taking place between the two obnoxious ladies next to me. I gave her another smile as if to say "you're welcome" and headed out of the food court, but not before passing by the two ignorant ladies who were still sitting there refusing to make eye-contact with me. When they finally did look at me, I gave them my sweetiest smile, and wished them both a good day.
I could feel their eyes boring into my back as I walked away. Silently trying to figure out what I said to the breastfeeding momma. Had I ratted them out? Had she heard them? It gives me a perverse sense of pleasure to know that somewhere in Charlotte, North Carolina those two ladies are still trying to figure it out.
So my question to you ladies today is not a new one. It's been asked millions of times before. Even so, I ask you today, what are your thoughts on breastfeeding in public? Have you done it before? How did people react? Is there any advice that you would give a new breastfeeding momma. Sound off in the comment section below.
Photo creds: 1) multiculturalfamilia.com 2) aabreastfeedinghotmail.com