Spotlight Guest Post: Finding Mommy Friends *The Chic Stay At Home Mom*

Spotlight Guest Post: Finding Mommy Friends *The Chic Stay At Home Mom*

Good morning, good afternoon, or good evening (depending on what time you're reading this) I have a special treat for you wonderful people today.

I would like to welcome back one of my fabulous sponsors, The Chic Stay At Home Mom who will be joining me until the end of October. Which is awesome, because she's such an amazing lady with such a beautiful story to tell. Find out more about her and her adorable family here



Today, she's writing about a familiar topic for most of us mommies; Finding Mommy Friends. Be sure to leave some comment love for her in the comment section and swing by her blog to show her some love.

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Hello there! I'm Tia from The Chic Stay at Home Mom blog. It is my pleasure to be doing a guest post for Reese this month. I love her blog and I feel honored to be one of her sponsors. Now. A little back story. I'm an Army Wife who recently relocated to Texas (for the second time). The first time we lived here we were only in San Antonio for ten months. Long enough for me to find a job and get pregnant. When I found out we were moving I was devastated. One because I loved my job, and two because I had just formed some great friendships and I wasn't ready to leave. It was like having a summer fling and not wanting the summer to end. Luckily, I'll be meeting my girlfriends from my old job this week for lunch. Unfortunately, they all have school age children (and jobs) so they aren't available for story time, arts and crafts and impromptu play dates at Chick Fil-A. Hence my dilemma.


Being back in Texas is great, but this time it's completely different because I'm a stay at home Mom to an awesome two year old girl. Finding friends when you're working is pretty easy because you eventually bond with someone at your job. When you're a stay at home Mom you have to literally find friends. Which has been ridiculously exhausting. First of all looking for other stay at home Mommy friends is a mix between dating online and dating the old fashioned way. I'm all over Facebook joining different pages and trying to "get in" on different conversations about meet-ups and play dates. With no luck might I add. Apparently, I suck at online "dating". Thank God I got married when I did because I'm not doing so well getting pass the screening process. 

To add to my borderline Facebook page desperation I've been making sure Savannah and I look like a fun, approachable duo while we're out. You never know who you may run into and I want another Mommy to see me and say "Hey that lady should be coming to my group's play dates!". Or at least hello. I would actually settle for a hello at this point. You see at our last duty station (residence) we had an awesome group of friends and attended play dates, lunches and outings with them on a regular basis. Maybe two to three times a week. So it's literally killing me to sit at home most of the week.


I get it though. Once women have formed a system and a group of friends they don't go out of their way to include the new chick at the playground. I get it. Even if I am cool and my kid is well behaved you probably won't be inviting me to join the group at Starbucks for the pre-nap jam session. I get it. Trust me. I do. So. To the group of Mommies that were hanging out at the playground today, thanks for chatting me up but deciding you weren't interested in a second date. Or would that be an official first date? See. I'm not good at the new age dating rules. I thought for sure that the blonde with the super cute little boy was going to ask for my number but nope. It was a huge build up to an awesome let down. I guess she just wasn't that into us.


Don't worry I'm not discouraged and I will continue to put myself out there. I'm a fun girl. Some people even think I'm funny and a darn good friend. I know eventually Savannah and I will find a group that's right for us. Until then, I'll keep enjoying our one on one time. We'll be starting gymnastics and dance lessons soon and I'm positive we'll make some friends there. Who knows. We may even click with someone at the playground this week. We'll be looking our best just in case!  Just like when you're dating, in the beginning it's all cute blouses and skinny jeans. Once you become friends it turns to sweats and stained t-shirts and you no longer feel the need to put on makeup. That's what I'm looking for. Some other no-fuss Moms who are easy going.

Well. I hope you all enjoyed my little rant about something that's going on in my life right now. Feel free to stop by my blog and see me sometime!


5 comments :

  1. That does sound like the dating game. I feel like its the same way with meeting friends in general. If you work it is easier though.

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    1. Yep, working makes it a lot easier. It's one of the things I miss about my job. I worked with some great women!

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  2. Hi Tia,

    I so can relate to you on so many levels and I'm here in San Antonion too. The only difference is that I do have two school age children as you mentioned, but I do stay at home and only work part time from home. My daughter is also in gymnastics and as I mentioned before she loves kids and would definitely play with other kids no matter what is their age. I dislike San Antonio because like you I also don't have any friends and we live off base which makes it even more difficult to make friends. I have attempted to look for work and that has been a struggle for me even with a masters degree. But we have to make plans to get together every so often to get ourselves out the house more. We are considering moving on base ourselves which would be even more convenient. But definitely a great read and just about everything you wrote is how I feel and probably many other military spouses and no one else never seem to get it.

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    1. We do have to get together! It's just been hard this time around to get to know people for some reason. Maybe it because school just started back when we got here so everyone was focused on getting into their own new routines. I think a lot of military spouses go thru this. It is so much easier for the service member to adjust because chances are they are working with people they know from another duty station. The military is small that way. Can't wait to hang out soon!

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