Basically the whole purpose of this community is for people to anonymously tear apart bloggers who have committed what THEY deem to be horrible blogging atrocities. Like right now, I've probably committed at least eight different blogging faux pas that would typically send them into a flurry of angry messages in forum dedicated to just how terrible my blogging skills are.
This little discovery has actually helped to clarify a few things for me. I always wondered why it was that one of my favorite bloggers, Don't Quote The Raven, consistently has her comment section flooded with nasty, degrading messages. Seriously she can be posting about how she went on a Missionary trip to Africa, scaled a ten story building that was engulfed in flames and managed to rescue a set of triplets using only a glass of water and a spool of thread, and yet still, those anonymous commentors will find a reason to hate.
And it's not just online. It's everywhere. I happened to be in the mall the other day listening to a group of women tear down another lady. I mean they were brutal. It reminded me a bit of middle school. Anyhow, I noticed that they suddenly changed topics, and realized that the lady they had been talking about had come back to the table. They then proceeded to fawn over her sweater...the very same sweater that they had been joking about just minutes earlier...
Now that's just wrong.
Trust me, I'll be the first to admit that I'm not perfect. Not even a little. But seriously, do people not realize how absolutely hurtful they can be sometimes? Amanda Todd, Tyler Cleminti, Megan Meier any of these names ring a bell? Or more recently, the nurse who killed herself over the whole Royal family prank phone call debacle.
We can never know what's going on inside someones head. We'll never know just how close to giving up they are. But I do know that I would NEVER want to be the straw that breaks the camels back. I would NEVER want to have to live with the fact that I was responsible for another human being taking their own life. That I'm the reason that a parent has to bury their child, or that a child has to grow up without a parent. I couldn't live with it. Could you?
So my request to you guys today, is to try to stop being so judgmental. Like I said, I do it, but I'm working on me. I don't expect the world to turn into a utopian society overnight, but I do know that I want to be the kind of woman that my daughter admires and aspires to be herself. A wise man by the name Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi once said "Be the change in the world you wish to be."
Until next time,