The one statement guaranteed to make you take back whatever follows those three little words. Especially when it comes to parenting. Before Jasmine was born, I lived under the assumption that I knew exactly what it was that I wanted for my daughter. Including the sports I wanted her to play, the languages I wanted her to speak, and the acceptable career plans I had laid out for her. Little did I know children don't necessarily do as told.
Flash forward 20 months later and I'm regretting every "I would never" I ever uttered. Especially the "I would never put my child on a leash" statement.
"Perpetually Paranoid Peggy", "Nervous Nancy", "Mommycopter". These are all the nicknames that typically come attached to my name when making references to my apparently extremely over-protective approach to raising my daughter.
In the beginning, it would bug me that people were constantly making fun of the fact that I happen to be concerned about the safety and well-being of my child. Every time I heard "Oh it's just your first one, by the time you get to your second kid, you won't be so overprotective. So according to that logic I suppose in about 5 or 6 years it'll be cool to let little James Jr. play with a pair of scissors while sitting on the roof of the house during a lightning storm? Yep, seems legit.
It bugs me because the same ones who tell me I need to chill out will be the first to gossip and whisper about how I neglected my kid if anything were to happen to her. I have seen this over and over and over again.
Lord knows you can't follow your kid around for the rest of your/their lives. At some point you will have to trust the people whose care you are leaving them in. But for those times that she is with me, I will unabashedly hover. As a mother, that is my prerogative. Which is why I have absolutely no problem with purchasing a backpack leash for her when she gets a bit older.
Now I'm not saying that I'll tie her to a pole outside while I go inside to leisurely browse in Macy's. In fact, I have no intention of using it when I'm not in a crowded area. But those times that I am in a extremely crowded environment, alone and am distracted, I would consider getting a leash.
It only takes one second.
One second to turn you back and have someone walk off with your child.
One second to lose your grip on their hand and have them run into traffic.
One second can change your life forever.
I understand that I can't be omniscient or omnipresent, but I can at least mitigate the risks that come with raising a child in 2013.
The world is not the same place it was in 1970 when my parents were young. We are an overstimulated, constantly distracted society, and there are some truly evil people walking this earth. As a mother, I will do everything humanly possible to ensure that my daughter does not become one of their victims. If I have to take some flack for it, then so be it.
So I did a little research and found some fairly inexpensive backpack leashes. I narrowed it down to two potentials. What do you guys think?
Both are $14.99, the Bumblebee harness can be found at Target and the backpack harness is available at Babies-R-Us. I like the backpack because she can grow with it, but I like the bee because it's just so darn cute.
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