To Leash or Not To Leash

To Leash or Not To Leash

"I would never..."

The one statement guaranteed to make you take back whatever follows those three little words. Especially when it comes to parenting. Before Jasmine was born, I lived under the assumption that I knew exactly what it was that I wanted for my daughter. Including the sports I wanted her to play, the languages I wanted her to speak, and the acceptable career plans I had laid out for her. Little did I know children don't necessarily do as told.

Flash forward 20 months later and I'm regretting every "I would never" I ever uttered. Especially the "I would never put my child on a leash" statement.

"Perpetually Paranoid Peggy", "Nervous Nancy", "Mommycopter". These are all the nicknames that typically come attached to my name when making references to my apparently extremely over-protective approach to raising my daughter.

In the beginning, it would bug me that people were constantly making fun of the fact that I happen to be concerned about the safety and well-being of my child. Every time I heard "Oh it's just your first one, by the time you get to your second kid, you won't be so overprotective. So according to that logic I suppose in about 5 or 6 years it'll be cool to let little James Jr. play with a pair of scissors while sitting on the roof of the house during a lightning storm? Yep, seems legit.

It bugs me because the same ones who tell me I need to chill out will be the first to gossip and whisper about how I neglected my kid if anything were to happen to her. I have seen this over and over and over again.

Lord knows you can't follow your kid around for the rest of your/their lives. At some point you will have to trust the people whose care you are leaving them in. But for those times that she is with me, I will unabashedly hover. As a mother, that is my prerogative. Which is why I have absolutely no problem with  purchasing a backpack leash for her when she gets a bit older.

Now I'm not saying that I'll tie her to a pole outside while I go inside to leisurely browse in Macy's. In fact, I have no intention of using it when I'm not in a crowded area. But those times that I am in a extremely crowded environment, alone and am distracted, I would consider getting a leash.

Why?

It only takes one second.

One second to turn you back and have someone walk off with your child.

One second to lose your grip on their hand and have them run into traffic.

One second can change your life forever.

I understand that I can't be omniscient or omnipresent, but I can at least mitigate the risks that come with raising a child in 2013.

The world is not the same place it was in 1970 when my parents were young. We are an overstimulated, constantly distracted society, and there are some truly evil people walking this earth. As a mother, I will do everything humanly possible to ensure that my daughter does not become one of their victims. If I have to take some flack for it, then so be it.

So I did a little research and found some fairly inexpensive backpack leashes. I narrowed it down to two potentials. What do you guys think?

kiddie leashesBoth are $14.99, the Bumblebee harness can be found at Target and the backpack harness is available at Babies-R-Us. I like the backpack because she can grow with it, but I like the bee because it's just so darn cute.

would you put a leash on your child
So my question to you guys today is what are your thoughts on leashes for children? Excessive or necessary? And more importantly, Bumblebee or backpack?


Sound off in the comment section below. 

XOXO Reese

Photo cred 1)Babies-R-Us
Photo cred 2)Target

16 comments :

  1. I like the pink one but thats just because I'm obsessed with pink lol. I remember saying to myself while I was pregnant that "I wouldn't dare put my child in a leash backpack." but now that she's actually out in this world with me & she has turned out to be quite the dare devil, I've been reconsidering. I too had to eat my words lol. I believe at times depending on the destination,the leash is necessary. I avoid going places alone just because I fear someone may pray upon the fact that I'm distracted. so if you do end up getting flack for it,just know that you're not alone.

    ~Osh

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    1. It is good to know that I'm not alone.

      I'm the same way about not wanting to go anywhere alone with my daughter. I hate to be so paranoid, but at the same time, I was born in Philly, and even though I may live in the south now, I refuse to let my guard down. Whenever I'm watching some sort of tragedy unfolding on the news and they're interviewing the parents or witnesses, someone always says "but we live in a good neighborhood, nothing bad ever happens here." I never want to be that parent.

      BTW, I'm leaning towards the pink one too! Thanks!

      -Reese

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  2. I'm all for them... I went to the zoo last weekend and a dad was on his cell phone. He had a three year old and an infant in a stroller. He was on his cell phone - not paying attention to his kids - three year old was pushing stroller several feet ahead - three year old ended up dumping the infant onto the cement after letting go of the stroller and it rolling down an incline. I was mortified. Leash. Leash. Leash.

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    1. OMG that's terrible! Like I said, it just takes a second. It's nearly impossible to watch your child's every movement. At one point, like that guy, you're going to take a phone call, or have someone come up to you and ask a question, and in that split second, something can happen. Poor baby! That just hurts my heart :(

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  3. I must be honest, before I read the whole thing I thought to myself "I will still never put a leash on my daughter. Leashes are for animals". But I also never thought of the whole 'kidnapping' thing. Which is a GREAT reason for a leash. I plan to buy one now for crowded places, because you're right..it only takes once! Becoming and being a mom has made me eat the words "I will never" too many times!

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    1. lol, it's terrible the amount of "I would never's" I have taken back since my little bean came along. Seriously, I use to say the same thing "leases are for animals," but becoming a mom really gives you an entirely new perspective.

      I'm happy you're considering getting a leash. I went back and forth for months before I finally just decided that just having some sense of peace of mind was worth dealing with being judged. Best of luck to you dear!

      -Reese

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  4. I love the honesty in this post...and even still, even being the paranoid freakazoid that I am...I still would never leash my kid (she's nearly 15 months and running crazy but...)...however, I have come a long way from judging those parents who do use the leash system! Turns out it's hard to judge someone for loving their child A TON just because it's in a different way than myself :)) So go for it! Bumble bee is cutsie cute!!!

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    1. "Turns out it's hard to judge someone for loving their child A TON just because it's in a different way than myself" Yes! I feel like we should get this put on a t-shirt. It sort of makes you wonder how simple life would be if more people had that same understanding.

      I definitely feel that parenting has given me the gift of clarity. Like you said, it's hard to hate on the way a person chooses to parent if they are doing it because they love their child so much. I feel terrible now thinking about how judgmental I was before Jasmine came along.

      Right now it's a tie between Bumble Bee or Backback, but I'm leaning more towards Bumble Bee. It's just too cute to resist.

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  5. I dont knonw the back pack is kind of cute for a busy public area like a airport or something...my kids are 10 and 7 now and I never did.....but I don't think it is a bad idea....by the way I'm having a link up come link your blog!!

    http://meetthebrowns20.blogspot.com/2013/04/use-your-imagination-and-blog-hop-with.html

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    1. I think the reason it freaks me out so much is that I live in the city and am always uptown when it's super busy. I get so paranoid because I keep envisioning her running out into traffic. The nightmares are enough to drive me nuts.

      Thanks for the invite! I'll be sure to link up.

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  6. You are so right they are not like they were so I don't blame u for wanting to. It better than not caring!

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    1. Yes. James use to get on me all the time for my "Mommy-copter" antics, but then his Uncle pulled him aside one day and said "Be lucky she cares about her child so much that she's always hovering."

      I still get flack every once and a while from him, but I always remind him what his Uncle said, and he shuts up and hugs me.

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  7. My son ran thru everyone's legs as we were funneling out of a college graduation, NEVER AGAIN! I've leashed my kids a couple of times and will do it again. I agree that it can only take a second. I'd rather be judged than loose my child FOREVER!

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    1. Eeek, that must have been terrifying! Maybe I should hurry up and get the leash since James is graduating in less than a month. I'm already dreading the ceremony. It's just so. many. people.

      Thanks for linking the post! Feel free to link away. And any tips you have on surviving graduation with a little one would be totally appreciated!

      -Reese

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