Driving me Crazy: Blogger Edition

Driving me Crazy: Blogger Edition


Pet peeves. We all have them.  Today, I'm sharing things around the blogosphere that drive me up the wall. Please don't take me too seriously. I'm not trying to call out one specific blogger, or say that I won't read your blog if you do any of these things. The truth is I'm guilty of a few of these myself.  When you're young and new to something, you honestly don't know any better. Hopefully by the end of this post, you will have learned something new or read something that has you nodding your head in agreement and chuckling because you've "been there." Without further ado, here's my list of blogger pet peeves. Enjoy!

1. Captcha. It is the devil. The actual red horned and long tailed devil. If I were to somehow end up in the eternal inferno upon my demise, I feel as though I would be forced to spend all of eternity trying to discern whether or not that's a 3 or an 8.

On a more serious note, I know some of y'all who use captcha think you have a very valid reason for doing so. I'm going to be 100% real with you--once people find out you use captcha, they will not comment on your blog. There are loads more effective alternatives to keeping your blog spam free without driving away potential commentors. Personally, I have my blog set so that I have to manually approve comments. This has single-handedly cut my spam problem by about 95%. Please, please, if you want to have any kind of interaction in your comment section, lose the captcha.

2. Bloggers who don't respond to their comments. Ever. I get it, we are busy, busy people. And I understand that you can't respond to EVERY comment. I don't. But I do make a concerted effort to make sure that you guys know that I enjoy what you have to say. I can't tell you how many blogs I've given up on because they refuse to respond to comments.

Before she disappeared, one of my absolute favorite bloggers, Elizabeth from Elizabeth Ivie, would take the time to respond to nearly all of her sometimes 100+ comments. That shows dedication. And in return, she has some of the most loyal following of any blogger I know.

3. CONSTANT Self-Promotion. If at any time during our blogging relationship, you have every reached out to me for help trying to grow your numbers, you know the FIRST thing I will always say is you WILL give more than you take.

I mean it. If you ever look at my Twitter feed, you'll see that I typically only promote one or two of my own posts per day, whereas I promote other blogs 10-15 times a day. Whenever I stumble across an interesting article that I think my twitter buddies might find interesting, I share it-- sometimes multiple times a day. The result? Not only do I have the satisfaction of knowing that I helped a fellow blogger, but sometimes, those bloggers will give me some shout-outs as well. Instead of focusing on growing your "numbers" focus on cultivating relationships.

4. Mob Mentality Styled Attacks. I can't tell you how many times I've stumbled across an all-out twitter war because someone accidentally tweeted something that was taken out of context and now has been turned into a huge deal. A mistake is simply that, a mistake. If they have apologized, there is no need to beat a dead horse. Stop jumping on the hate train and attacking everyone. The blogosphere is smaller than you realize, and you never know who is watching.

5. Mean girls. This is another biggie. I know in high school things were a bit cliquish, but I assumed that once we graduated we left that type of behavior behind. I'm sad to say that the blogosphere reminds me quite a bit of my adolescent days. Some of us suffer from mean girl syndrome (see above picture)

This drives me absolutely batty. I've seen somethings, I mean actually physically seen some things with my own eyes that has caused my blood to boil. I will never, for the life of me, understand talking down to someone because you feel they aren't on "your level." If being on your "level" requires that I behave like that, then I can truly tell you that I'd rather be forced to endure 10 straight hours of having to listen to Nicki Minaj's greatest hits. And we all know how I feel about Nicki Minaj...

So there we have it. Short, sweet and simple. Can you relate to any of these? What are some of your biggest blogging pet peeves?


10 comments :

  1. girl, YES. to ALL of these. I am a fairly new blogger, so i'm really peppy and happy about blogging, but lately I have run to the "mean girls". Honestly, WHY? What is the point, its like highschool all over again.

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    1. Yes, the "Mean Girls." They are real. I tried once to point out the err in one of their ways, and it was headache inducing and blood pressure raising. Now days, I typically just back away slowly and remove myself from whatever the situation is. It's just not worth the headache when karma is anxiously awaiting the chance to work it's magic.

      Whatever those mean girls do, please don't give up! I've seen far too many good bloggers give up because of the politics of the blogosphere. If you haven't already, find a solid group of blogger buddies. It will help to have a supportive bunch you can turn to :)

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  2. Gah. CAPTCHA! 100%! You make great points on all of these. Nice idea for a post!

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    1. And to think, when I first started, I used Captcha *shudders dramatically.* Luckily at that time I only had two followers, both of whom were family...

      Thanks for reading Holly. I'm happy you found some good points in here!

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  3. Haha! I actually laughed out loud at your description of a captcha. :) I clicked on this post from Bloglovin expecting to be like "oh boy here's a shit storm" but actually this post is exceptionally reasonable and well said. And I agree! I think there's always going to be "mean girls" (and mean guys!) out there because there are just some people who can't fathom that they're not the centre of the universe and have to deal with that by power tripping on everyone else, but whatever, that's life. Thanks for the thought provoking read. :) Cheers.

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    1. I try to find the lighter side of things. Like I said in the post, sure some of these things irk me, but I know for a fact that there are a gazillion things I do that drive other bloggers batty. Such is the way of life.

      And yes, the mean girls will continue on. I haven't met any mean guys out there in the blogosphere yet, but I know they're there, like you said, "power-tripping on everyone else". Le sigh. We've just got to keep on keeping on. Thanks for stopping by Michelle :)

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  4. Great points. I haven't run into the "mean girls" myself, but I also don't put myself out there either. I really haven't approached too many top bloggers. I've heard some stories though...that's probably why. I hate rejection when it's "highschool-ish." Did they forget they started out small too? One of my friends told me at BlogHer she was talking to someone who kept looking around to see if there was anyone "better" around. I try to help as many new bloggers as possible, because I was helped by others as well. I will say that there are a few big bloggers I tweet out on occasion that are always gracious. But I do find there are many people that don't even acknowledge you on social media even if you regularly share their stuff.

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    1. Ekkk, that's actually one of the main reasons I'm so apprehensive about going to BlogHer. I have a big mouth. If I see something amiss, I'll typically walk right up to the person and call them on it. Very politely, but still. I don't like bullies. Especially adults.

      I'm the same way with newer bloggers. I always try to help when I can. I can't always do it, but I make an effort. As for the bigger ones, I typically leave them alone. I don't have time for it...

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  5. Totally--as far as the bloggers who ignore their readers and their comments, especially. I don't reply 100% of the time, but I try to visit my readers blogs and interact with them and reply when I have something to say back...why keep reading a blog if they are as responsive as a website with no humanity in it at all?

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    1. Rachel, you always do a fantastic job responding to comments, so no worries there! And I agree, why keep reading if there's no response/ If I wanted that, I'd read a book...

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